How to make that visit with your children go smoothly
Your off for the adventure of a visit with your children. You realize you’re excited. It seems like yesterday that you were all family and now, that child is married with a family of their own. You have grandchildren! You don’t feel that old. It will be so good to see them all again. But there are some challenges that must be considered before you go.
Where should you stay when you visit with your children?
They said they would meet you both at the airport. Your daughter knows how much you hate driving at night these days. But that means you’ll have no transportation the whole visit. Are you going to stay at their home or go to the motel that’s 5 miles away? So many things to consider. If a visit with your children puts one of the grandchildren out of their room, you’re not sure that is wise. Yes, that’s what you always did when they were growing up and grandparents came for a visit. But times have changed. Each of the grandchildren has their own rooms now. Will they be offended if they have to give up their room? And there’s that bathroom problem now too. Seems after that water pill you take each morning, you’re in the bathroom every hour for at least 3-4 times. You try to remember how many bathrooms they have.
Oh yes – you remember that there is a motel just a short distance away. You stayed in it once. Not a great place but adequate for a short visit. But without a car? Oh dear. Hubby and you will have to discuss this one. You’re here to visit with your children – will they be offended if you don’t stay with them?
Nana has some suggestions for a visit with your children
- First off, I’d suggest you and hubby discuss the pros and cons of each solution. But before you make a decision, talk to your child also. It may happen the grandchildren are looking forward to the chance to be together in one room while you visit with your children. That makes the decision much easier to make.
- You don’t remember how or where bathrooms are in the house. Let your child know about your concerns.
- Then, there’s the cost of staying in a motel. Can you really afford that? Most motels, especially around holiday times, increase their rates. $100+/ per night is not at all unusual these days. Will that amount affect how long you can stay?
- And thinking of motels, is there still time to make reservations? Gone are the days of showing up, expecting that accommodations will be available.
- Will you need to rent a car if you stay in the motel? You know your child and spouse each have cars. (Gone are the days of the one car family it seems.) They will offer to pick you up, but that’s a disruption to them. But renting a car is another expense that will have to be considered. And are there still cars available where the children live? Do they have Uber there?
What clothes should you pack when you visit with your children?
Some quick reminders. The airlines now have strict luggage restrictions. Whatever you decide to take has to fit in those restrictions. It’s always good to go to the TSA website to check before you travel by air about what is restricted and what you need to bring to check in.
Next, you need to check with your children about what the weather is like and if they have planned any events that will need special clothing. Do you have the clothing needed or do you need to order it before the visit? If you need to order clothing or items online, you might want to have them shipped right to your child’s home. When it’s winter clothing you’re ordering, your children can be alerted to bring items like coats, boots, hats, and gloves to the airport when they pick you up. Items now usually used can be shipped ahead and after the visit. That’s cheaper and easier for you than having to pay for extra weight on the airplane.
Call to action when a visit with your children is in your plans
A few items have been discussed here. There will be more, but what Nana is saying to you, is – You need to do some pre-planning when a visit with your children is on your horizon. In today’s world, things change very quickly. You want your visit to go smoothly. Pre-planning just these few items will prevent problems from arising before you even get there.
Have a wonderful visit with your children and grandchildren. Face to face visits makes such wonderful memories for all involved. Treasure those times.
Love, Hugs, and Prayers,
“She (Mary) wrapped him (Jesus) in a blanket and laid him in a manger because there was no room for them in the village inn.”
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