Are you one of those shoppers who has all your Christmas shopping done already?
This time of year, I confess, I used to be trying to decide what gifts for my children and grandchildren I should get them for Christmas, sometimes up to the last week. I’ve finally solved that problem – not just for this year but for every year to come.
Now, What do I give as a gift for my Children and Grandchildren for Christmas?
Ater thinking about this problem year after year and meanwhile finding shopping more and more difficult, I came up with a solution that I’m very satisfied with and suggest you give it some consideration also.
I now work out my budget for Christmas each year and divide it among all the children and grandchildren. Then I send a check for that amount to each family with a note to use it any way they choose.
Why do I give this gift to my Children and Grandchildren?
As I got to thinking back to when I was raising a house full of children and Christmas time rolled around. I remembered all the requests for toys that they wanted that I knew wouldn’t fit into the budget. Should I use the charge cards? I did that one year and I think it took nearly the whole year to pay them off.
Then my mother started this gift of a check and it was a lifesaver. “Use it any way you want” was the note that came with it. WOW!
Suddenly, my Christmas was a whole lot brighter. Now, I could go shopping and find the special toys each one wanted.
What Have been the Results Using this Today?
I now do this with each of my children. The check is a family gift – not individual gifts. Some have used it in the same way I used it. Others, have used it for a special family trip/treat/or outing.
Looking back on How I Use the Christmas Checks
I know there were times when we used it to take the whole family out for pizza and a movie – a treat that in early days wasn’t in that tight budget. But mostly, we used it for those special gifts.
Oh yes – almost forgot. One year I talked to the children and we decided that Dad needed an extra special gift that year. They all were old enough to know that some of their gifts came from Nana and that I had purchased them with this check. That year, all of us gave up our gift to get Dad a sheepskin coat that he had wanted. That was a year of learning the joy of giving when they saw his delight with the gift.
Some pros and cons of using a check as a gift for my children and grandchildren.
When you’re giving a check, you often feel like it’s taking the easy way out. And in a way it is. Some years our health doesn’t give us a choice.
But what it is really doing is giving more control to our children over the gift for my children and grandchildren and helping them to be better parents to their children – our grandchildren.
Sometimes we don’t like doing that. Sometimes we don’t like how they use the money. It happens. But, we have to remember these are the children we raised, so part of that blames lies with us. It’s part of the way we give over our power to decide to those children we have raised and love.
Surprises that I’ve had with a Check as a Gift for Children and Grandchildren
There are years when we are in awe of how wonderfully the check was used. Adventures for the family. Play items for the whole family to enjoy. Things we would never imagine giving to them. And to see the enjoyment on the children’s faces when their parents tell them where that gift came from. I still get hugs from last year’s gift. Part of one check was used to put in a zip line! I would never have thought of something like that.
It’s also a joy to see the look of relief on a child’s face when they’ve been going through a tough financial spell. That check was the answer to a major problem that was facing them with no solution in sight.
Nana’s Opinion and Guilt Saver
Just Nana’s opinion that I wanted to share with you this Christmas. Sometimes we really don’t want to shop and feel guilty doing this. I hope I took some of that guilt away. Leave a comment in the box below and tell me what you think of my decision. And please sign up for Nana’s News. I enjoy sharing and hearing from each of you so very much.
Wishing you all a Happy Advent.
Love, Hugs, and Prayers,
Scripture for you today:
“Then they (then Kings/astrologers) entered the house where
the baby and Mary were…..
They opened their presents and gave him
gold, frankincense and myrrh.”
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