How to enjoy communication with your grandparents
Do you know that your grandparents have marvelous, wonderful stories inside them? Today, I want to show you how to enjoy communication with grandparents. And while you are doing that, learn more about your family and its history.
Hugs and kisses
are expressed with each other and right away you know who each other is. In addition, grandparents start communication with you through reading books and playing games with you. That’s where you learn that you are special to them and they are special to you also. Then as you grow older, you learn how to talk and then to carry on a conversation with them.
First off, let’s go through some basic rules of talking to any older people. They really aren’t rules, but they are a list of things that will help communication with them go better for both of you.
I need to tell you at the start, that older people’s hearing changes and many times they have difficulty hearing other people, especially certain tones and accents. Because of this, there are things that you need to do when talking to them.
- Always face the person you are talking to. This is, first of all, a sign of respect and indicates that you are listening to them. It also makes your voice go in a straight direction, right towards their ears, which makes it easier for them to hear you.
- Then you want to speak slower. Sometimes when you are excited, that is very hard to do. But you need to try doing that. When you speak very fast, older people, especially, may ask you to repeat what you said. That should be your first clue that you need to slow down and speak clearly.
- A third suggestion is to speak a little louder. Now that still means using an ‘indoor’ voice, but you can’t whisper to them. You want to make your voice about as loud as you would make it if you were singing a song. (Not that I want you to sing your words, just that’s about how loud you need to try making your voice.) Some children like to practice getting their voice to that loudness when they are alone or with their parents.
- Another thing to watch for – some grandparents hear better in one ear than in the other. They might not even know that, but it’s something you can discover when you are talking to them. Watch and see. Do they turn their head a little to one side or the other? The ear that is closest to you is probably the one that they hear better with. Knowing this, you can make it a habit to sit on that side when you are sitting beside them. You’ll suddenly find you have to repeat things less often.
- If your grandparents have a very hard time hearing you and others, you might want to think about writing down, ahead of time, something you especially want them to know that is happening with you. Then you can give it to them and not only tell what you want them to know, but also show them how well you write.
- A last hint, if your grandparents live at a distance and you talk mostly by telephone, you might want to ask your parents if it is possible to Skype with your grandparents. And if you are older and already know how to Skype, you could teach your grandparents how to do that when you visit with them.
What do I talk to my Grandparents about?
Grandparents enjoy hearing about what you are doing. You could tell them what schoolwork you are doing and how your grades are. If there is a subject that you really like, tell them about that one.
Talking about yourself
Another thing you might talk to them about is any trips you might have taken recently. Even going to the grocery store, if you’re able to help with the shopping might be something to tell them about. Did the training wheels just come off your bike? Did you just get your driving license? Do you have chores that are new? Do you have a job now? What sports are you playing or interested in?
Another area of communication with grandparents
An interesting project that some grandchildren have done is to start getting a history of their grandparents. Many children have learned many things that their parents didn’t know and they grew up with your grands as their parents.
You can do this several ways. Sometimes you will have a list of questions and take notes on what grandparents tell you. An easier way is to record the questions and their answers. Many of the smartphones today let you record conversations. And there are recorders that will also do that.
I’ve written a list of questions for you to ask your grandparents. You will find that they enjoy recalling memories from long ago and the people they remember. And you will enjoy your communications with your grandparents. After all, what they are telling you, is part of your history too.
What can you learn when you have
communication with grandparents?
One of the important things you can learn is the names of your grandparents, their brothers and sisters, and their parents, aunts and uncles, and even their grandparents and where they all lived. Were they born in the United States or did they come here from another country? These are your ancestors. And when you record and learn about them you are creating a genealogy of your family. Another name for that is creating a ‘family tree’. With the information you get from your grandparents, you can go on the internet and trace your family for even more generations. There are adults who make a living doing this for families.
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