You’re sitting reading this blog. Wait, you stop and look around. Oh dear, you should be cleaning and de-cluttering your home, not sitting reading something on the internet. Ought-Oh. You’re in need of some Housekeeping Sanity.
Okay, you think. I’ll get to it. I just need a break and this is better than lots of things others do. At least I’m learning something,
But the Housekeeping
Yes, you’ve read 101 articles on cleaning your house and de-cluttering. Of course, you know how to do it. You know you should be doing it, but……
It’s a useless task and it’s never done. No, that’s not it. You really want to have a house looking like Melissa Maker’s on http://cleanmyspace.com/ or Nikki on https://athomewithnikki.com/. But they don’t have children and they certainly aren’t living on your budget. Oh yes, they can afford housekeeping services. Wouldn’t that be wonderful – the housekeeping service – not going without the children.
You’ve been trying. You did really well on Christa’s Facebook page, Conquering Clutter Challenge Group and that was a lot of fun, but now the house still needs cleaning and the clutter is creeping up again. Right about here, you’re wondering if multiple wives are the answer? Not going there.
You’re ready to escape. A vacation or cruise would give you some rest and you’d be ready to step in and get things done. You’re just tired.
Choices to make
Should you go back to work so you can hire someone to do the work you aren’t getting to do? And pay a babysitter? Would you need to buy new clothes to work in? And someone else would be raising your children? No, no, not the answer. I’m home with my children because I want to raise them my way; my standards; my beliefs. Paying a minimum wage worker won’t give them the education I can give them. When I work out the costs, I come up with earning something like $.37 an hour! Yikes. Yes, I am staying home.
Well hon, Nana has a hint for you today. No, I’m not sending you on that cruise and No, I’m not babysitting so you can clean the house.
After having 5 children and being in your shoes many times, I learned the secret of housekeeping sanity.
Action for you
Clean one room. Your choice. I chose the bedroom because it was a room I could close and keep the children out of entering.
I cleaned that room until it shone. The windows were washed. I kept the curtains clean and ironed. The sheets were also changed regularly and I used the ‘fancy’ ones I had been saving. (After all you don’t want the next wife to use them, do you?)
Laundry was picked up daily and shoes and clothes were put away. No piles of clothes to fold here. Hubby and I shared a closet and I kept that in order also. This was the first room I dusted and vacuumed. I even purchased a new duvet cover for the bed so it looked pretty.
And with an attached bath, that was also included in the cleaning. Toilets were cleaned, as were the shower and the sink. Polished the chrome on the faucets daily so they shone. I even once a month cleaned out the medicine cabinet.
This room was my retreat. I loved this room. When I went in here, I felt at peace. It looked like I wanted it to look. I was proud of how it looked. This room was the real me.
And when Hubby came home from work, we would spend 10 quiet minutes in the bedroom while he changed, catching up on how one another’s day had gone. I was relaxed and enjoyed our time together, knowing if he looked around there would be no complaints about the housekeeping in here.
History of one clean room
I came to the realization, years later, that our parents and grandparents had these special rooms also. Older homes had both parlors and living rooms. And the parlors were the rooms set aside to entertain visitors when they came. Children only went into the parlor on special occasions like Christmas or Easter or when visitors came.
Your Options for Housekeeping Sanity
Many of you may also have, what today we label as living rooms and rec rooms, but the idea is the same. Others of you may have eat-in kitchens along with dining rooms saved for when guests are eating with you.
Any room that you choose can be your haven room, your retreat room. Keep it spotless. Make it reflect the you that you want to be. One room, set aside where you can know things are done just the way you want them to be done.
Enjoying your Housekeeping Sanity
This is your sanity room. Go there when you’ve reached your limit and need a break. Go there when you’re depressed and feeling like you’ll never get things done. Find an activity to do in your special room that you enjoy doing for 10 minutes. I’ve been there. I know it’s hard to get any time to yourself when you have small children. But I also know 10-minute breaks can be found. Keep a special activity that the children will enjoy for 10 minutes and save it for the times you need to re-sanitise yourself.
Look around. Say to yourself – “Yes, I know how to keep house and clean. I’m a really, great housekeeper. I’m just better at being a mother right now.”
A Nana Tip
A Nana Tip to go with this: Hubby complains about the housekeeping? Take him into whatever room you’ve chosen and discuss it in there. LOL Enjoy.
Love, Hugs, and Prayers,